There has been a lot in the news lately about miscarriage and the new center opening up, in conjunction with Tommy’s, to research in to the cause, however, very little is ever mentioned about unexplained infertility.
When I started trying for a baby, nothing happened. After a year, I went to see my GP who sent me to Queen Charlotte’s Hospital fertility clinic. After tests, that found my husband had no problems, I felt that the blame then lay squarely at my door! So month after month when nothing happened, the pressure I felt to succeed got more and more! People even say things, without thinking like, “when are you going to start a family” and you want to scream back at them “WHEN I CONCEIVE!” but obviously you smile and say “maybe soon” or give some limp excuse. For me this went on for 9 years before out of the blue I found I was expecting my beautiful son. I never conceived again. This has left me with a sadness as I would have loved a large family and the pressure fertility treatment put my husband and I under meant that our marriage sadly disintegrated.
I have several close friends who have suffered a miscarriage and it stays with them for the rest of their lives. They remember their due date and how old they would be now. The emotional scaring this terrible event leaves on them is still very evident and raw. So the opening of this center is very welcome and lets hope they can discover the cause so no one has to go through it again.
That said though, people who suffer miscarriages do get others sympathy and kind wishes, but if you are like me and suffer from unexplained infertility, then there is little of that for you. I’m sure this isn’t because people don’t care, they just don’t see the pain you go through every month when your period comes and you know, that again, you have failed to conceive. Unexplained infertility is cruel in the fact that no one sees what you are going through because there are no visible symptoms.
So whilst I totally agree with this research center, please can we also have some investigations in to unexplained infertility too please!
Tommys miscarriage research centre